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True Love and Chemistry: Exploring Myth and Reality

Posted by mopsky on August 30, 2007

True Love and Chemistry: Exploring Myth and Reality
by Toni Coleman, LCSW

When you think about the qualities found in a true “soul mate” relationship, what one word comes up most often on the top of your list?

Is it CHEMISTRY? Probably.

Just the mention of this term conjures up powerful feelings and images for anyone who has ever been in or seeking a love relationship. It is often described as a feeling that leaves you breathless, excited and weak in the knees. Palms sweat, the heart races and the body tingles with nervous anticipation.

It is believed by virtually everyone that true love cannot exist without chemistry. Therefore, the conclusion most would-be lovers come to is that if they experience these intense feelings towards someone, they have the basis for an ideal and lasting relationship.

Right? Maybe not. For this definition of chemistry is limited to one’s physical response to another person. It lacks an entire dimension that resides in our values, beliefs, personalities and worldview.

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How Will I Know I Am In Love?

Posted by mopsky on August 19, 2007

By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz

In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them, perhaps, the most revealing question of the interview – “How will I know I am in love?” We have heard very consistent answers. And conversely, many people involved in a new loving relationship, particularly young people, often ask us, “How do I know if I am in love?” We think we know the answer.

While we have heard a number of answers to our “How do you know you are in love” question, we can place them in seven categories. And, perhaps surprisingly, they have stayed the same over our 25 years of research on couples in love. Here they are, in a nutshell.

The first category is physical. People who say they are in love report getting “goosebumps,” “a palpitating heart,” “sweaty palms,” “a lump in my throat,” “teary-eyed when I say goodbye,” “a tingling sensation all over my body,” and the like. People in love have a positive physical reaction when they think about or see the one they love in person.

The second category is emotional. When they think about or see the person they love most lovers report similar feelings – “I laugh more often when I am with the person I love,” “an uncontrollable smile comes over my face whenever I see her,” and “I miss him when he leaves the room.” People in love feel emotions for the person they love that they do not routinely feel for others.

The third category is positive worry. Over the years, we continue to be amazed about the consistency with which people in love report to us that they “worry about their lover” when they are not around. Little thoughts of what we have come to call “positive worry” about the one they love begins to creep into their mind – things like car accidents, falling down, getting hurt at work, and getting sick. The folks we interview for the most part do not worry compulsively or negatively. These thoughts are normal and natural when you are “in love.”

The fourth category is what we call the I-cannot-imagine-life-without-her category. This is the point in love when you begin to think about the future – your future with the one you love. When you cannot imagine your life without him, you are in love!

The fifth category focuses on the oneness of your relationship. You begin to realize that you truly want this other person in your life. You want to be with them. You want to share with them. You want to live with them, share a bed with them, hold them and hug them. In our book, we refer to the notion of “turning two into one.” You actually begin to think about the one you love and not just about yourself or your needs. You think about theirs – their wants, their needs, and their desires. When the feeling of oneness consumes your body you are in love!

The sixth category is about pre-occupied love. Simply stated, you think about the one you love most of the time. You can’t get them out of your mind. You pull their photo out of your wallet and you smile. You are pre-occupied with them. When you are pre-occupied with them, you are in love with them!

The seventh and final category is love itself and your ability to express that love. You finally have the courage to tell them you love them! You miss them when they are not around. You worry about them. You care about their safety and welfare. You feel about them in ways you have never felt about another human being before. You suddenly and out of nowhere are inspired to say I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! You shout it to the stars. You are in love!

How Will I Know I Am In Love? from Tsiken’s First

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Call Center Side Effects – Pinoy Style

Posted by mopsky on August 17, 2007

Eto ang mga side effects ng pagtatrabaho sa CALL CENTER …

sa sarili mo :
01. wala ka nang pakialam sa buhay
02. di mo na kilala ang mga bagong artista…. si mahal at mura lang
03. di mo na alam itsura ng mga malls…
04. sanay ka na ding mag English o mag coño!
05. kaya mong tiisin na di palitan ang damit mo ng 16 hours
06. at magtataka ka dahil sanay ka ng magmura sa mga amerikano..
07. tawag sa auto mo ay taxi, kasi palaging gabi bumabyahe..
08. lahat ng kaibigan mo may christmas vacation ikaw wala
09. di mo maenjoy christmas party kasi kaylangan mo bumalik sa office dahil may pasok ka pa sa work.
10. yung ex mo may kasama ng iba
11. nanghihingi ka pa ng baon sa nanay mo kahit mas malaki sweldo mo sa kanya..
12. kapag may national crisis at rally, di ka makakasama… pakikinggan mo na lang sa radyo…at kahit binobomba na ayala nung Oakwood mutiny, nag-cacalls ka parin kasi bawal abandon calls.
13. oo nga pala! dati pag nag copy paste ka sa pc, ginagamit mo lang right click sa mouse, ngayon ctrl C at ctrl V na.

pag nasa bahay :
01. pagka sa sagot ka ng telepono, lagi na lang may opening spiel…
02. di na halos kayo nagkikita ng nanay at tatay mo, ang tawag na nila sayo ay “boarder” at sinisingil ka na nila sa upa mo! (uy magbayad ka!)
03. di ka na kilala ng aso nyo
04. sanay ka ng kumain sa harap ng pc mo kahit nsa bahay…
05. pag day off mo na lang ikaw nakakapaanood ng Eat bulaga at MTB –
06. gusto mo na den bumili ng water dispenser kasi pitsel lang ang nasa bahay nyo…

07. nag hahanap ka sa kahitbahay nyo na mga amerikano, australiano, at german at british…feeling pang international na ang world mo.
08. kahit may malaki kayong speaker sa bahay gusto mo pa din naka-earphones!
09. pudpod na tenga mo sa kaka-pakinig ng paolo “payatot” santos
10. akala mo may sarili kang locker sa bahay nyo…..
11. di ka na nagbabawas sa bahay, sanay ka na sa cr ng 15th floor or ibang floors.
12. nang ho-hoard ka na din ng tissue sa bahay
13. gusto mo na ding maglagay ng alcogel sa banyo nyo..
14. pag nag cr ka…sanay ka na sa gripo na automatic at toilet bowl…
15. nasusuka ka na pag nakita mo ang pc sa bahay nyo..
16. maglo-lock ka ng pc kahit sa bahay na. pag pindot mo ng CTRL + ALT + DEL iba ang lalabas at matatawa ka na lang sa sarili mo dahil para kang gago. –
17. nung pinasok ng akyat bahay ang bahay nyo, magsisigaw ka ng HACKER!!! HACKER!!!
18. sanay ka na sa mga prank callers at mga death treats na nakasulat lang.. sa dami ba naman ng ma-encounter mong ganito gabi-gabi sa trabaho eh…”I’m sorry sir/ma’am if you continue to use such an abusive language I’ll be forced to terminate this call, please be reminded too that this call is recorded.”

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Some Friends are Forever

Posted by admin on August 16, 2007

Sometimes in life,

you find a special friend;

someone who changes your life

by being a part of it.

Someone who makes you laugh

until you can’t stop;

someone who makes you believe

that there really is good in this world.

Someone who convinces you

that there is an unlocked door

just waiting for you to open it.

This is forever friendship.

When you’re down,

and the world seems dark and empty,

your forever friend lifts you up in spirit

and makes that dark and empty world

suddenly seem dark and full.

Your forever friend gets you through

the hard times, and the sad times,

and the confused times.

If you turn and walk away

your forever friend follows.

If you lose your way,

your forever friend guides you

and cheers you on.

Your forever friend holds your hand

and tells you that

everything is going to be a-okay.

And when you find such a friend,

you’ll feel happy and complete,

because you need not worry.

You have a forever friend for life

and forever has no end.

Laurieann Kelly

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For Rei!

Posted by admin on August 3, 2007



From your Eversun friends!

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