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Positive Thinking

Posted by mopsky on June 15, 2007

I have search the internet for wonderful stories and I have found one. I want to share it with you. It is all about living in the positive side of life.

Positive Thinking

by: Unknown

Read this, and let it really sink in… Then, choose how you start your day tomorrow…

Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant.

The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.

I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested. “Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gun point by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?” I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry continued, “…the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man.’

I knew I needed to take action.” ” What did you do?” I asked. “Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'”

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

If everyone applies just these, the whole world will live in happiness.


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Real friendship is built from personal differences

Posted by mopsky on June 13, 2007

We live in this world having different characteristics, traits, status, family, etc. Every people think differently and person has his or her own way to appreciate things. The thing that you want may be the thing that other people hate. This is normal. If we think of it deeply, we are strangers to one another, not until we met other people along the way to our journey through life.

The people that we have met possess different characteristic and some of them may be the exact opposite of what we have. That is life. We should accept the fact that we can never be the same; that no two persons are alike, not even twins. But this is a good thing. In fact, there is a big reason why God made us like this. He wants us to depend on one another. He wants us to help each other. He wants us to share what we have and ask for what we need. We are made like this to serve our purpose. Whether we like it or not, that is our calling. That is our responsibility.

The sad thing here is that most people put emphasis on personal differences as the basis of friendship. If you are different, it does not always mean that you don’t belong to the group of people who share the same thoughts. We are all created to belong to one another. And the differences that we have are the main foundation of real friendship. And I mean “real” and “true” friendship.

A real and true friend is someone who will accept you for who you are and for what you have without any conditions at all. A true friend is someone who is willing to share what he or she has and would be willing to ask for help when needed. This is what I meant when is say real friendship is built from personal differences.

Money, wealth and possession should not be the basis of real friendship. These material things cannot make real friendship work. The differences in people make friendship much stronger. If you have the same thoughts, feelings and beliefs, how would you achieve personal growth? How can you find the best solution to problems when you only believe in one thing? Your friends may have something that you don’t have and you also have something that they don’t have. Use these differences to make your friendship whole.

So when you want to have real and true friendship, never ignore those people whom you think is different from you. As one author said, “being with a group that has similar characteristics is sometimes dangerous for it cannot help you to grow.” Real friendship is not based on similarities but it is based on how you handle differences to make your friendship stronger.

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You Never Lose By Loving. You Always Lose By Holding Back

Posted by mopsky on June 12, 2007

You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus. When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself “eeee…so full….cannot sitdown”. “I’ll wait for the next one”.

So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus. Then the second bus came, you looked at it you say, .. this bus is so old…so shabby!” So you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus.

After a while another bus came, it’s not crowded, not old but you said, “eeee… not air-conditioned …better wait for the next one”. So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus. Then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late. You panicked and jumped immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus!.. So you wasted your time and money waiting for what you want! Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can’t ensure that the air-conditioned bus won’t break down or whether or not the air-conditioner will be too cold for you. So people… wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn’t hurt to give other people a chance, right? If you find that the “bus” doesn’t suit you just press the red button and get off the bus! (as simple as that!) Read the rest of this entry »

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Lessons About Love

Posted by mopsky on June 11, 2007

1.Love for – SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love’s only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

2.Love for – NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn’t about becoming somebody else’s “perfect person.” It’s about inding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

Never say “I love you” if you don’t care. Never talk about feelings if they aren’t there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn’t intend to catch her fall and it works both ways…

4.Love for – MARRIED
Love is not about “it’s your fault”, but “I’m sorry.” Not “where are you”,but “I’m right here.” Not “how could you”, but “I understand.” Not “I wish you were”, but “I’m thankful you are.”

5.Love for – ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how
good you are for each other.

6.Love for – HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to
go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

7.Love for – NAIVE
How to be in love: Be able but don’t stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.

8.Love for – POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but
it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone
breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has
no idea how you feel.

10.Love for – STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to
find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted
years on someone who wasn’t worth it. If he isn’t worth it now he’s not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go…..

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