It’s All About Love… Myth or Reality?

When we talk about love and relationship, there are many ideas that can be attached to these kinds of topics. Most of the concepts learned are based on the experiences of other people. But do these ideas really exist in real life? Or there are those that can be considered as a myth in the aspect of relationship?

Let us look at some of the ideas and concepts about love and relationship and evaluate whether they are real or just a mere myth.

“All we need is love.” This is a common idea that we can hear from most people. “All we need is love.” Myth or Reality? There is a famous quote that says, “Love conquers all.” And this can be the bases of the “all we need is love” concept. Other people believe that love is all they need for a relationship to survive. In movies, this can be true. But in reality, it is not always that easy. Making a relationship work takes a lot of effort and understanding for both parties. There should also the presence of trust and commitment. Despite of the “love” factor, it is not easy to maintain a certain relationship. Other factors aside from love should take part in making a relationship work. So the statement “All we need is love” is just a myth.

Another very common idea about love and relationship is that when people found true love, they would live happily ever after. This is a very familiar quote from fairytales, “… and they live happily ever after.” Is it myth or a reality? We can say that every people would dream to have found their true and lasting love, a love that would last forever. And when they have found it, they would think that they would live happily ever after. This can be true. But we should consider that every relationship has its ups and downs. There are circumstances that would test the strength of each relationship. Despite true love has been found, it doesn’t mean that it would be a problem-less relationship. There are many problems and trials that would come and it would depend on the couple on how they would handle them. A successful relationship is not a relationship that has no problem at all, but it is a relationship that can stand strong despite of the storms that would come its way. The statement “… and they live happily ever after” shows a perfect and a problem-less relationship that does not really exist in real life.

“Love at first sight” A very common concept about love. Is it a myth or a reality? This can be true to some but not applicable to all. For me, “love at first sight” is not true. Why? Because love is blind. True love grows over time. For those people who are looking for a long and lasting relationship, the concept of “love at first sight” is not always applicable. When we say “sight” it is more on what the eyes can see. And physical attraction is not the basis of real love. As one of my friends says, “love at first sight” never exist but “lust at first sight” always does. She does not believe in “love at first sight” but believes in “attraction at first encounter”. Real love is not qualitative in nature. It does not choose whom to love with the basis of physical attributes. Real love means loving a person not for what that person has but loving him or her without knowing why. It is the magical feeling that is very hard to decipher.